Author: Sharon Capehart
I am sure you have said “yes” to someone before when you meant to say “no.” At that moment you feel vulnerable and wish you could have that moment back. You may have experienced the fear and guilt of hurting the other person’s feeling. However, you may be hurting yourself. You have to be bold and stand firm in decisions that affect your life and the people around you.
It is hypocritical to assume that being nice is the best solution for a situation that will snowball later into confrontations and arguments. In essence, it is a fact that you are not truthful in an instance when you tell someone “yes,” and mean “no,” instead. It says a lot about your character and sense of reasoning. Now wait a minute, don’t think you are being judged here, but sometimes we get caught up in things that relinquish our control over our own lives.
Pleasing others can be mentally exhausting and prevent you from fulfilling your own life’s purpose. It is quite all right to help others. The point, though, is that there are times when you won’t be able to do so.
Here are some tips that will help you to feel good about saying “no,” to someone:
• Be aware that you have only a set amount of time during the day to do what you need to do and so it is important to realize that there will be others who do not intentionally wish to distract you, but sometimes will. So your ability to be able to distinguish those time wasters will prove to be so invaluable to you for each day.
• Prioritize your day. Make room for things that may come up, but leave more time for your assignments. Never give yourself too much to do in a given day. It will consume you and then you will have the desire to leave the scene the minute someone comes by to ask you to do something for them.
• Follow your instincts. Never do something that your heart is not into. Be true to your inner man.
• Your reason for doing something and the motives of others must be equal.
• Never feel guilty about saying, “no.” It will only eat at you and create fear about what you will do the next time you have to say, “no.”
• Never let anyone pressure you into saying, “yes.” This also will make you feel guilty about your decision.
• How important is your,” yes,” to the situation. Is it warranted to do what you are asked to do? Is it something that can wait for another time and place? You may be asked to make a quick decision. Stick to your decision when you have made it. Don’t seem doubtful because the person will only insist and try to wear you down.
Saying, “no,” may prove to a lifesaver to teenagers and even to adults. Sometimes, we get caught up in certain situations because of the choices that we make to please others. Is it worth it?
Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/self-improvement-articles/saying-no-341799.html
About the Author:
Whether from her home office in Dallas, Texas, or traveling around the country, SHARON CAPEHART, the Empress of Empowerment, makes it her mission to "wake up" women everywhere to the incredible potential they have long forgotten they possess. She is the author of "The Power 2 Be You!," creator of "A Woman's Path to Success" as well publisher of the FREE Power Up! ezine. Sharon's breakthrough "Path To Success" series helps women build a solid foundation for success as Sharon herself guides them on a journey to a life filled with excitement and personal power! "A Woman's Path To Success" is available now at www.positivelywomen.com.
Sharon Capehart, Empress of Empowerment, is an Author, Coach, Speaker and Entrepreneur. Sharon will help you build a solid foundation of confidence, cultivate a success-oriented mindset, and walk with you on your journey to a life filled with Passion, Excitement and Personal Power. For more information please visit www.positivelywomen.com.
